Anonymous said: I really love your blog and I love you. All of your cosplays are so fantastic. Yours is the only cosplay blog I follow because yours is the only one I like enough to follow. And so pretty much I was wondering if you would please be my friend?
Hello, anon! I’m really happy to hear that you enjoy my posts! However, on the subject of becoming friends, I’m afraid I am at a disadvantage as I don’t know anything about you.
(I get questions like this a lot and I have been meaning to address it. So this is not just for this particular anon but everyone who have asked similar questions.)
As much as I would like to think it would be so easy to become friends with someone just by asking, I’ve come to learn that it’s not that simple. Perhaps it is particularly true for someone like me, since I share photos and some stories about myself and my friends. People tend to build expectations, and get the feeling that they know me so well — when in reality they don’t know much at all. There’s more to who I am than what I choose to share online, after all.
On a bit of a darker note, I have had my trust betrayed in the past by people who claimed to have wanted to be friends. I hope this helps you understand why I am being kinda guarded.
That does not mean I am shutting out the possibility. I have been honest with you, and that is something friends would do, isn’t it? If you decide on trying again not anonymously, please don’t ask directly if we can be friends, as I believe that friendship is not something that is built on one simple question.
Maybe try interacting with me first. Perhaps you could leave comments on my public page posts in which we could discuss something we might have in common. I don’t know. Maybe you have other ideas.
It might be worth noting that I’m not fond of private messages in which people try to engage me in small talk like, “What’s up?”
THE SKY IS UPI’m uncomfortable with one-on-ones with someone I’m not familiar with, I’m not good at small talk, and there are so many things that are “up” that I would exhaust myself figuring out where to begin. Hahah. I don’t intend to hurt anyone’s feelings; I am just being real here.
I guess it’s kind of like in real life: Casually exchanging comments in a public place is no problem. But when someone unfamiliar sends a private message for unclear reasons, I feel like I’ve been cornered in an alley. (If they have a question or a definite message to express then that’s fine.)
If you do decide to try leaving me comments, just be sincere and be true to who you are. I can’t promise anything, but that sounds like a pretty good place to start. :)